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Help With Maniputlative And Controlling Mother Family?

admin — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 05:40:37 +0000

About 2 months ago, I finally decided to be open with my mother about seeing an old but very loyal and wonderful boyfriend (known eachother and our families for 16 years! since highschool) he and I parted ways for about 7 but came back together naturally. He has been diagnosed with Pancreatic Cancer and has opted for holistic treatment. He left his family, friends and life in Cali to be with and I quote “the woman that I love, my best friend, and I just want to be happy for as long as I can”. At the same time I also FINALLY found my biological father, grandparents and extended family in Louisiana and another 1/2 brother. I should also note that both of my parents sent me to live with diff relatives off and on since I was 7 till I was about 16 years old because they were financially and lifewise irresponsible and I suffered (but never sent the other kids away). I am a people pleaser, a straight A student (now 30), a great home, EXCELLENT job, respect of coworkers and am a real sweetheart and have let my family use me for hundreds of thousands of dollars, in groceries, cell phones, bank accounts, bank loans, credit cards, gas money and everything else… So I guess what I want to know is after being open and honest letting her know exactly that my bf is living with me and I found my other family, she said ” I have no response, good luck”. and of late said ” Do you still have people living with you?” She has always controlled me and now she can’t, but I am remaining the bigger person (have not cut her off, keep her in the loop). Why is she punishing me and being so rude? and why do I feel guilty about trying to pry myself out of her control and truly be happy?
Been depressed for 10 years until my other fam and bf came into the picture now am happy and hopeful…

My Friend’s Situation…help?

admin — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 00:41:30 +0000

My best friend’s dad discovered he had pancreatic cancer this July. He seemed healthy and started chemo treatment this October. About a week ago, he started throwing up a lot of blood and had to be taken to the hospital, but then he came back home. But earlier this week, he was throwing up more blood and had to be rushed to the hospital. Yesterday, my friend got a call that her Dad had started throwing up more blood and he was still in the hospital. She visited him last night, but only her mother was let into the room. Then, today (Halloween), she called me this afternoon, saying her dad had died that morning.
I’m so sad and upset that it’s making me mad that God didn’t hear my prayers. I feel really betrayed by God and I want to be there for my friend so badly. Any ideas on how to help her get through this? And how could God do this? I don’t understand.

Do You Also Feel Grateful For Benefits?

admin — Sun, 28 Feb 2010 23:29:39 +0000

In the case of Social Security Disability benefits, at age 40 I began receiving them, with a prognosis of five years. That was twenty-one years ago, and my recertification reviews have proven the permanence of the disability. I’ve received the annual cost-of-living increases every year.
The cause was having survived pancreatic cancer, causing the necessity of a completely customized interior, involving the loss and rearrangment of several organs, one of which, the stomach, no longer performs its function, indeed permanent, and requiring digestive enzymes, in addition to problems developed since.
I can tell you the gratitude I feel for living in a country where such programs are in place for such rare events as this, and the degree to which I empathize with others whose disabilities aren’t apparent.
I’m sure Disability prognosed as five years was considered fair, and my survival beyond was a financial shock.

What’s The Next Step When Chemo Has Failed?

admin — Sun, 28 Feb 2010 17:44:01 +0000

My husband has pancreatic cancer that has metastases to his splee, stomach, liver and his right thyroid node. The gemzar has failed him and the doc has given him 3-6 months. He refusing to use the cistaplatin with xelodo. Now my husband chest is swelling up on his right side. He’s saying that he’s whole chest is hurting him. I am beside myself on what to do next. He has also refused hospice. Any suggestions? Thanks

Was I Responsible For Their Deaths? Or Is This Just A Coincidence?

admin — Sun, 28 Feb 2010 12:30:50 +0000

When my brother was still alive (died of pancreatic cancer), he had a tube inserted in his stomach. The doctors explained it was to keep something separate (I don’t know from what). If that tube moved, my brother would be dead.
Well, the tube moved and we rushed him to the hospital. Everything turned out to be okay, got fixed, and we were sent home after long hours at the hospital.
On our way out, we heard some people saying they wish the tube had moved!
I was like, “You wish my brother dead?! Well, up yours! Screw you! I hope you’re the ones who die!”
That night, those people got into a car accident. All dead. Did I kill them by wishing death on them? Was it my fault? Was I responsible for their deaths? Or was it merely a coincidence?

How To Stop Grieving..?

admin — Sun, 28 Feb 2010 11:47:44 +0000

My grandmother passed away on Dec 31 2000 and I still cry over her. I can’t even hear people talk about her without my eyes welling up to cry. Everyone tells me to just let it go but I can’t, I can’t get over her death. So how can i? And don’t tell me “Well remember her best moments” yes I do remember them but she died so suddenly from pancreatic cancer…=/ please help me

What’s The Next Step When Chemo Has Failed?

admin — Sun, 28 Feb 2010 05:44:48 +0000

Need Help Trying To Persuade Husband To Go Vegetarian For Health Reasons….?

admin — Sun, 28 Feb 2010 01:58:09 +0000

I have been a vegetarian since 1998 and in that time have only slightly gained weight in the ‘pouch’ area. My husband is a meat eater and beer drinker and I have been trying to persuade him to go vegetarian to lose some of the weight around his mid area – i.e. love handles, etc. He gets offended when I bring this up and thinks that I have stopped loving him. I told him I care about him and that I don’t want to see him end up in the hospital down the road. His dad was on the heavy side and contracted diabetes which eventually led to pancreatic cancer and his passing. Needless to say, I would not want this to happen. He works out regularly but this has had no effect on the mid area. He does eat vegetarian every now and then. I told him to go veg as his New Year’s resolution. He is sort of considering that. How can I get him to listen to me without offending him?

A Tribute To…..?

admin — Sat, 27 Feb 2010 18:30:56 +0000

Luciano Pavarotti, opera’s biggest superstar of the late 20th century, died Thursday September 6th 2007. Pavarotti, who had been diagnosed last year with pancreatic cancer and underwent treatment last month, died at his home in his native Modena at 5 a.m., his manager told The Associated Press in an e-mailed statement.
His wife, Nicoletta, four daughters and sister were among family and friends at his side, manager Terri Robson said.
Let us all send our mourning to the late Pavarotti, who’s given his all to the world of operas and our condolence to his family.
Rest In Peace Sir.
Amen.http://sg.news.yahoo.com/ap/20070906/ten…http://sg.news.yahoo.com/ap/20070906/ten…http://sg.news.yahoo.com/afp/20070906/te…

How Long Does It Take The Liver And Other Organs To Shut Down? How Long Til It’s All Over? Please Help…?

admin — Sat, 27 Feb 2010 12:28:55 +0000

Hello, my father-in-law is 47 years old and dying of pancreatic cancer. He was told there was nothing more they could do for him and sent home to die about 3 weeks ago. Yesterday his hospice nurse told my mother-in-law that his liver is now shutting down (failing). I was wondering how long will this take and if and when the other organs will follow suit? If anyone has prior experience, maybe how much longer does he have to suffer like this? They live 1500 miles away and when he passes we will have to pack-up and leave to be there. I know this is all up to God, but I would like a small idea of what to expect next and what will occur over the next few hours or days. If anyone can help I would greatly appreciate it. Thanks to all and God bless!!!