How Do You Know If Someone Is Depressed? ?

Filed Under (Pancreatic Cancer) by admin on 06-02-2010

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I think my mom might be depressed and I don’t know what to do or how to help her. Some background information is my step dad passed away last year of pancreatic cancer. We were both so sad when he died but she still seemed ok. But lately she has been not acting like herself. She goes to work, makes me dinner and then goes to sleep. She has always been a great mom, the best actually. She still asks me about my day and obviously care about me, but I can’t explain it, it’s not the same. I can feel her sadness and it feels so heavy. Earlier tonight when i walked into her room i noticed her eyes were really puffy from crying. I don’t know what to do because it’s just me and her now. I don’t know how to help her. I love her so much and it feels so painful to me that she is so sad. Please don’t tell me to find another adult to talk to because I don’t know of any other adult that i want to tell this to. How can I help her? I’m also 15 so I can’t drive myself or her anywhere or do anything like that.

Have You Ever Lost An Animal Or Someone Else Before?

Filed Under (Pancreatic Cancer) by admin on 21-01-2010

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i seen many animals go. but i never got over the fact that my kitty ran away a few years ago. and now i had to put my dog who was 8 years old down because she had pancreatic cancer. and my father passed away from pancreatic cancer. he bought me the dog when we had little money. i dont understand why life has to be so hurtful why did GOD have to take away my dog too? why? what did i do that was so wrong? i try to be the good person, but i feel like everyone leaves me. i have no friends to turn to. i just want to give up too.
what did you do to feel better about the animal death?

What If You Can’t Find The Words To Say To Someone Who Has Little Time To Live?

Filed Under (Pancreatic Cancer) by admin on 21-01-2010

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I feel a little silly having to ask this but I’m really at a loss. A few months back my boss was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer, at the time they didn’t know how advanced it was and went through with operations. Unfortunately, as some of you may know, pancreatic cancer rarely has survivors, and my boss isn’t one of them. Last week it was confirmed that the chemo had no effect and she should begin her goodbyes. It’s especially sad b/c she has dedicated her life to helping others – she’s the directing attorney for a probono law office that helps people with fair housing/discrimination and with predatory lending. She has twin six year olds, a boy and a girl, who are full of curiousty but at a stage in their lives where they just don’t understand what’s happening to their mommy. You can check out more details about her at www.caringbridge.org and typing in kerstinarusha. Her staff (including myself) went to visit her about a week ago and it’s the first time I’ve had any contact with her

I Have A Few Questions, I Know I Must Contact A Lawyer But Maybe Someone W/ Exp. Knows. My Mother Is Ill.?

Filed Under (Pancreatic Cancer) by admin on 18-01-2010

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she has pancreatic cancer and was diagnosed 3-4 mths ago. She has been having good and bad days but is now very weak, She doesn’t have a living will, and everything is starting to look ugly, meaning my brother and other sisters are all fighting among themselves as far as my moms property. My oldest sister and brother and my mom are named owners of moms home. She has talked to me (i am the youngest) that she wants them to sign a quit cailm deed so the house can be only under her name. Then she wants to sell the house to one of the siblings and therefore distribute accordingly… Can this be done? My moms okay sometimes but is very forgetfull lately and will a lawyer want to draw up a will? If I become the executor can I choose which siblings get money? I knw it sounds mean but I have a sister that has been sooo mean to my mom all her life and all of a sudden she comes to see my mom telling her she has changed, yeah right shes a snake!!!I just dont want her in my moms living will…

Can Someone Please Tell Me What You Think Of This?

Filed Under (Pancreatic Cancer) by admin on 13-01-2010

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Hello, I’m only 11 so cut me some slack. This is just the beginning but please tell me what you think of my story so far. Thank you!
Hopsital
“They’ll be shooting mostly in Naples, Ella. And the crew will never leave Florida. So you’ll just be traveling around the state. No big deal. You will be staying with your grandparents in Naples, lucky you; they live in the main shooting spot. Your mom will visit every once in a while, but she has to take care of your brother. He’ll want to spend the rest of his life with his family, so your mom will be there most of the time.” Wendy, my perfect, supportive, helpful agent, explained to me my next movie location.
“Alright, thanks, Wendy. You’re the best. I got to go. My Mom is yelling at me to start studying my lines, I’ll see you tonight at the table reading. Bye.”
Before Wendy got a chance to say bye back, I hung up. My Mom was really frustrated with me for being late to see my brother in the hospital. My pancreatic cancerous brother, who had only months to live. I visited him as much as I could, but being around my busy Hollywood schedule was impossibly hard. I loved him so much, and couldn’t stand the fact that he was going to die soon. I sighed and focused on breathing.
“What did Wendy want?” My Mom ordered.
“She told me the new location schedule for Stalker.” Stalker was my new movie.
“Ugh! Ella, why can’t you take a break from acting for just a couple of months and spend your free time with your brother!” Her voice broke on the last word when the waterworks started up, again.
“It’s my job, Mom! It’s Hollywood! I can’t just bail out on work for a couple of months and get fired, that’ll ruin my career for sure! You know that!”
“Sometimes it seems like Hollywood would be better off without you,” she paused, “although, you are Hollywood’s loved one.” She pointed to the room down the hall where I kept all off my awards.
“Mom, what Hollywood side are you taking? The against side? Or the non-against side? Hmm?” I started growing just as mad as she was.
She took a deep breath. “Doesn’t matter anymore, Ella. Grab your script, your coming with me to the hospital. At least show some final support for your brother.”
I couldn’t argue with that. My Mom new how much I loved my twenty-year-old older brother, but I never did go to the hospital. But you have to give me some credit for not wanting to go. I mean, who wants to sit in a blinding white room with the smell of blood and rubber gloves?
I ran upstairs and into my dark purple painted room where I spent most of my time in. I searched my desk for the thick packet of highlighted sentences. After about a minute, I finally found it. This was my home script; I usually use the one in my trailer, twenty-five minutes away from here. I stared at it for a moment, the front page. The part where my longest paragraph is. The introduction to Stalker.
I never realized that in such a small town there would be insane happenings. I guess I can say that I was wrong, way off, by a mile. My friend and I soon began to see that there wasn’t paranoia going around in the air, it was the creepy eyes in the air following our every move. My Dad and his friends searched the town for this mysterious creeper, and found nothing. That was extremely unusual for my Dad, the best cop in the small town. And during the night I feel like “he” was watching me. And during school I feel like “he” is poisoning my food in my lunch box in my backpack. Which is outside in the hallway, not with me. That’s why I haven’t been eating or sleeping. I’ve been
dizzy. . .
“Ella!” My Mom screamed my name and made me jump. I’ve been in such thought about the movie – in La La Land. I raced downstairs. “What was keeping you so long?!”
“I, er, nothing . . . ,” I whispered.
My Mom gave me a furious look, “Okay, let’s go.”
I opened the garage door and walked out to my Mom’s black BMW M6 convertible. I opened the passenger seat door and stared at the back gate that leads to the most luxurious backyard. It held a giant pool, trampoline, outdoor kitchen, huge patio, volleyball, and basketball. My personal favorite was the trampoline. I go on it most of the time to practice my crazy moves for movies. And for Stalked, I’ll be on there a lot.
‘Won’t be long till you’re driving,” My Mom said. She was excited about that; she doesn’t like having to drive people around to their needs. Ahem, Universal Studios, Warner Bros.
“Hmmh.” I nodded, still staring at the gate.
“Grandpa will be teaching you in his truck while you’re in Florida.”
“Cool.” I watched a leaf fall off of our apple tree.
“Ella, do you have something against Grandpa teaching you?”
“No, Mom. It’s just . . . I realized something.”
“What?”
“Dad died from pancreatic cancer, Brett is going to die of pancreatic cancer. Am I next?”